I have been giving some thought to the word happiness. I started off thinking of it because I had one of those days of being quite a Grumpy Girl. You know, one of those days when just every small thing goes wrong, or at least gets on one’s last nerve. I imagine you have experienced those days. If you have not, you are a saint and have no need to read my thoughts on happiness.
Anyway, it was at one point on this day of grumpy thoughts that I heard quite clearly the question: “Do you really want to be happy?”
Well. There’s a question.
A few more came after it: Why is it that so often I am doing the exact opposite of what will bring me happiness? What am I actually willing to do for the state of a happy frame of mind? And what, to me in particular, does this happy life look like?
Those are questions that have occupied me, and I offer them to you.
I am not speaking of continual bliss. When you think of it, continual bliss would certainly be abnormal and wearing. I’m speaking of a happy frame of mind that weathers the continual wear and tear of day to day living.
I had been driving and shopping when these questions came to me. When I came home, I spied the potted amaryllis we’ve all been watching grow like a monster. I shoved the grocery bags on the already messy kitchen counters and proceeded to photograph the bloom in progress.
Then today, I was washing a glass in the sink, and I suddenly realized that I liked the feel of the new dishcloth I had bought. Silly, I know, but pleases me. My particular form of happiness. I became aware of the delicious feel of the warm water, and how lovely the view out my kitchen window.
Something the creativity teacher Julia Cameron said floated up in memory: “The capacity for delight is the gift of paying attention.”
I had begun paying attention.
Now that I have seen this, I have decided to make a point of paying attention all through the month of February and to record what I find that brings me happiness. I invite you to join me. If you feel you can leave a comment about what you discover of your own happiness, please do. It should be great fun to find what brings happiness to others.